Kiss No More Frogs

MendMaker Exercise: Session written and explained by your coach Claire Anstey

Let’s Manifest

It's not you, it's me, let's just be friends? What a load of bollocks. Fed up of kissing frogs? Starting to feel some cracks in your current relationship?

After being single for 7 years this exercise got me a fabulous lover. Bloody great stuff, it worked just like magic. Well not quite magic, but it is good, have a go.

TASK

Grab a piece of paper, and write down a list of all the qualities you want in your perfect partner.

My Dream Partner is:

-Kind

-Respectful

-Fit

-Charming

-Determined

-Honest

-Rich (well at least someone who is debt free and has savings)

-Someone that doesn't get drunk and fall over into his or her kebab on a Friday night

How do they walk, talk, do they take time with their appearance? Are they fashionable, stylish or look like they need a bath? This is your perfect list so let it be exactly what you want and need in a partner. Do they have kids from a past relationship or are they completely emotionally free? Now look at your list. It's time to be honest about who you are at this moment in time.

How do you conduct yourself? What vibe do you give out to the world? Think about it. How many of the qualities, values and behaviours in your perfect partner list do you actually live by on a day-to-day basis? Now here is the light bulb moment. Imagine your perfect partner has written a list.

Do you think your dream partner is looking for:

- A total stoner that does 3 grams of coke on a Friday night.

- Someone who always thinks of themselves.

- A huge big fatty that moans about her weight but eats chocolate all the time.

- Someone who is stuck in a dead end job.

- I want a nag, someone to totally chew my ears off.

Like is attracted to like. If you want to attract your dream partner or get back on track with your current one then you need to be a dream partner too.

It's time for you to make your own notes on your partner list. Take each quality that you want him/her to have and write beside it how you have this quality in your current life and be truthful. Do you really have this quality and doze it 100%. Remember this is the perfect partner list so you have to match all of their qualities 100%. It's quite a shocker when we realise what we want and how we actually behave. Be proud of all your 100%. Go you. As for the low marks, you will never again be what you were yesterday as today is a new day. It all starts from now.

Write down the things you need to do to be more like the partner that you want. What qualities, actions or decisions do you need to make? These can be a mix of small steps and general sweeping statements, whatever works for you and gets you there quicker. The faster you start acting like your dream partner the quicker your dream will be attracted to you or your current partner revived.

Fact: I made this list and then I worked at it hard. I kept redoing my list as my ideology about my dream man changed. Within 8 months I had not only become a sex bomb that felt respected and totally fierce, I also found a man and his abs on a beach in Goa. Now that's magic.