9 - Make It a Habit
Written by Claire Anstey
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Creating a habit of personal development and emotional healing is essential for long-term growth and well-being. Like any significant goal—whether it’s learning a new skill, getting fit, or building a meaningful career—healing requires consistent effort, patience, and a commitment to showing up for yourself day after day.
Understanding Healing as a Long-Term Process
Healing is a journey, often an intricate one, where we gradually peel back the layers of our past, emotions, and behaviors to uncover our true selves. Experts like Brené Brown emphasize the importance of embracing the complexity and non-linear nature of this process. Healing isn’t something that happens overnight; it’s about uncovering and working through deeper emotions, often revealing unexpected challenges along the way. This journey can sometimes bring to the surface old wounds or beliefs that you thought were long gone, but this is actually a sign of deep, meaningful progress.
Normalizing Setbacks and Continuing Forward
Setbacks are a natural part of the healing process. There will be moments when you feel like you’re taking two steps forward and one step back, and that’s perfectly normal. Healing is not a straight path—it’s full of twists, turns, and even detours. What matters is that you keep showing up for yourself, especially when it feels challenging.
Brené Brown’s research teaches us that resilience is not about avoiding discomfort but about leaning into it. It involves allowing yourself to be vulnerable, feeling what needs to be felt, and continuing to move forward even when things get tough. Every setback is an opportunity to learn, grow, and build the resilience that will carry you through to the other side.
The Importance of Consistency
One of the most powerful things you can do for yourself on this journey is to make healing and personal development a consistent part of your life. Just as you would with any other important habit—like exercising or eating well—it’s about creating a routine that supports your well-being.
Here’s how you can make this a regular practice:
Commit to Regular Practice: Engage with your healing journey regularly, whether it’s attending live sessions, participating in group discussions, or doing personal reflection exercises. Even small, consistent actions can lead to significant changes over time.
Be Patient with Yourself: Healing is a process, not a race. Move at your own pace, and trust that you’re exactly where you need to be.
Embrace the Process: As you peel back the layers, you might uncover difficult emotions or experiences. This is where real growth happens. Allow yourself to feel deeply, to grieve, to release, and to heal. Each layer you work through brings you closer to your true self.
Why Making It a Habit Matters
When you make personal development and emotional healing a habit, you build a foundation for lasting change. You’re not just addressing the symptoms of what’s holding you back—you’re getting to the root of it. This is where real, transformative healing occurs.
By committing to this work, you’re not only improving your own life but also creating a ripple effect that impacts everyone around you. You become more present in your relationships, more resilient in the face of challenges, and more connected to your true self. This transformation is not just personal—it’s communal.
Inspiration to Make Healing a Habit
As you continue your journey at The Wisdom Gym, I encourage you to make this work a regular part of your life. Show up for yourself consistently, even when it’s hard, and trust that every step you take brings you closer to the life you want to live.
Healing is a process of peeling back layers, facing what’s underneath, and emerging stronger. You’re not alone on this journey, and every step you take is a victory. Let’s keep moving forward together, one day at a time.
Thank you for being here and for making this commitment to yourself. Let’s make healing a habit and watch the transformation unfold.