List all of your achievements

MendMaker Exercise: Session written and explained by your coach Claire Anstey

You Are Not a Failure Because Your Relationship Didn’t Workout!

Session Length: Duration varies, typically 20-30 minutes or as needed for completion.

Session Benefits: The "List All of Your Achievements" MendMaker Exercise is a powerful activity designed to reinforce your sense of self-worth and accomplishment, especially after the emotional toll of a relationship ending. This exercise encourages you to focus on your personal successes and the positive aspects of your life, reminding you that you are not defined by any single event or relationship. By compiling a comprehensive list of your achievements, you gain a tangible reminder of your strengths, resilience, and the value you bring to every situation. This not only helps combat feelings of shame and failure but also boosts your confidence and provides a solid foundation for emotional recovery and future successes.

Introduction:

You are not a failure. When a relationship is over it hits us like a death. The loss of a person whom you lived for far too much can make you feel like a fool left with nothing.

This is not the truth of whom you are – You have not wasted your time or life on someone else, every experience and route we take has a value – if we choose to learn from it.

Shame is not an emotion you need to experience. This is not the truth of your life and all you have achieved so far. You have nothing to be ashamed of – You lived your life with your heart on your sleeve and that as I see it is brave and honorable.

To enable yourself to see past this current pain and remember the value in your life this MendMaker is a simple list of all your achievements so far.

Now I say simple because I know how wonderful you are – Without sounded like a nut I know the importance of every single person on our planet (even if you don’t value yourself right now).

You may want to sit for a few hours and do your list in one sitting or your may wish to ponder on this for a few days and write down your achievements as your remember them. As with all MendMakers how you choose to do it is up to you – You are your best teacher and healer – At this stage you just need a helping hand from someone like me whom has been there before and recovered.

Enjoy writing your list and make sure you write down at least 100 things – Then keep it somewhere safe so that you can go to it when you need reminding. I kept mine in the back of my diary, it was nice to come across it when I least expected it and it was always on me if I needed it in an emergency.